Author: Chris Sullivan

After having looked after my mum for some 11 years she is now unfortunately in a nursing home. I'm afraid her dementia worsened as did her physical capabilities. So, for the first time in 21 years I find myself no longer caring for anyone. Apart from my mum I was also a single parent to two children and also looked after my dad who had Alzheimers, (he died in 2005). So, I have decided to return to University to try and get another degree this time in English Literature. (My other degree I got some 30 years ago is one in Ecological Science). After a year at college I have passed all grades and now will start Edinburgh University in September 2019. A busy time ahead made even busier by my writing a book on the TV series, Lewis.

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  1. My condolences, Chris. Losing a parent is heartbreaking, especially under these circumstances. It’s not as easy to gain comfort without the traditional rituals of mourning. Hoping this pandemic will pass sooner, not later, so you can celebrate her life together.

  2. I am so sorry for your loss. I work in the senior industry here in the US and it has been devastating to lose all of these beautiful souls. One thing has been clear is how much you and your family loved your Mum! Take care and just know we are thinking of you across the pond!

  3. Chris, my heart goes out to you and your family. You all are in my thoughts and prayers. My sincerest sympathies. Take care.

  4. Condolences to you & your family. My family lost an uncle. Friends have lost relatives as well. Tough times.

  5. My deepest condolences to you Chris, and to your two children, following the sad loss of your mother, and their grandmother. After seeing you, in your video yesterday, Chris, I was hopeful that perhaps better news was around the corner. Alas, unfortunately, and all too suddenly, that was not to be the case, and I am extremely sorry to hear this terrible news about your mum. All my best wishes to you Chris, and to your family, during this heartbreaking and distressing period of time.

  6. I’m sorry to hear about your loss. I had just watched your video where you were trying to be optimistic but this virus is taking so many of elderly people. Your years of caring for your mum show your caring and devotion. My sympathy to your children who now have lost their last grandparent.

  7. This is a very hard event for you to endure as I well know in my experience. Please accept my deepest sympathy and hopes for peace and comfort for you and your whole family.

  8. Dear Chris: With my sincerest condolences from the Rocky Mountain West in the States. Thank you for sharing the touching photo from your boyhood. Very nice. Your love for mum was evident in your posts and those of your kids in your absence.

  9. So sorry to hear about your mum. The old photo is fantastic – it’s obvious how much your mum cared for you and your brother, and you’ve looked after her so well in her later years in return. So much love flowing between you, her and your kids. Thinking of you all with deepest sympathy.

  10. Hello Christopher, I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. You may have seen this coming, or not, but it doesn’t make it any easier. I wish you strength, and the courage to get on with your life, and to enjoy it again and be open for new things once you have had the time and peace to deal with your loss. Take care.

  11. I am so very sorry- you will read these words from everyone- it is hard to say the correct thing- I read once -to so you are sorry is about all you can do- also giving you a cyber hug. My mother died when I was born -so I never knew her- At 9 yrs old daddy married again and I had a mother- she lived to be 90- a loss is a loos at any age- Condolences to you and your family ;o(.

  12. I’m so sorry to hear this, Chris. She sounded like a fighter, and she obviously held out as long as she could. Best wishes to you and your family. — Cheers, Jeff

  13. I am very sorry for your loss, Chris. Though we don’t know each other, we share important values and that makes me feel close to you and your family in this sad time. 🙏

  14. So very sorry for your loss Chris, my thoughts and prayers to you and your family .xx

  15. Dear Chris

    I am sorry to hear of your Mum’s passing – whichever way it happens is sad – Still as I like to think, its not how long you are here ,its what you do while you are here!

    Phil from Melbourne Au.

  16. Losing someone you love is always hard. Mothers in particular, they have always been there, like the stars in the sky, it is inconceivable they could be gone. The old maps no longer serve in a world that has lost its centre.
    How we cope varies, some build shrines, others make new maps.
    I wish you well.

  17. Chris, I’m so sorry for your loss. I know it leaves a gap in your life, and it’s hard to see that she is beyond suffering when you are in pain. Look for ways in which she reaches out to you from the other side. She will do so if she hasn’t already. Be well. <3

  18. What a wonderful photo – so sorry Chris – it is so hard to lose a parent (I have lost both) – my sincere condolences. Treasure your memories – they won’t take away the pain but they do help to heal.

  19. so sorry darling, you bring me so much richness in my everyday life I wish I could return some to you God speed to you and your family

  20. Very sorry for you. I have had experience with Alzheimers and it is almost like losing them twice. Keep strong.

  21. Thoughts and prayers for the repose of your Mum’s soul, and for strength and consolation for you and those who mourn in your time of grief.

  22. So sorry to hear of your loss. I ordered your Lewis book last week and am so looking forward to reading it when it arrives. x

  23. Oh Chris. I wish I could be closer, to help out with anything you might need. Having lost my mum through illness, it is certainly a mixed emotion between the sadness of losing someone you love, versus knowing they no longer suffer. Sigh. She was blessed to have you in her life. You honoured both your parents, and showed them such great respect by caring for them with love. I have no doubt they are now watching over you with fondness and appreciation. Remember the good memories. Hold onto both of them in your heart. Sending hugs from afar. You will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.💜

  24. My deepest sympathies go to you and your family you are in my prayers and thoughts at this difficult time
    hold on to the memories for you mum and treasure them always they might be painful at the moment i know because lost my gran last august from demetia l lived with my gran since i was born so i can imagine the pain that you are going through.
    please take care
    Endeavour Prowse

  25. Very sorry for your loss. The pain will ease a bit but she will always remain in your heart. Thank you for your work. I enjoy it.

  26. Si So sorry Chris, My condolescens. Hope You keep strong and well. Todas My husband received his positive duagnosis for Covid 19- hard times we have to deal with.

  27. So sorry to hear this. Sounds like like you have been the best son a mom could have. Take care of yourself.

  28. Chris, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your mum yesterday. Coincidentally, my wife and I just watched the two Endeavour episodes: S01 E04, ‘Home’ and S02 E01, ‘Trove’ in which Endeavour’s father passed away.

    Warm thoughts and prayers are coming your way.

  29. Chris,

    Just seen this now. Terribly sorry for your your loss. You have my thoughts and condolences.

    ronan.

  30. I’m so sorry for your pain and grief. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

  31. I am so sorry. I was only visiting this site because I know my mother, whose birthday would have been today, would have so enjoyed all of the information. Thank you for giving my heart peace. I wish that your pain and grief, especially in the circumstances, can somehow find the balm that you have so generously given me.

  32. Having just found you again, I didn’t realize what was going on with your mother. I’m so sorry to hear that she passed away. I hope you find whatever peace is possible. I hope she is listening to heavenly bagpipes even now!

  33. Lovely picture of your mum. I’m sure she was thankful to have you all these years.

  34. So very sorry to hear the sad news about your mum. Lovely photo of her with her boys. I too lost my mum and dad in May 2017 and May 2018 respectively. It’s tough and I still miss them. I wish you and your family the very best at this difficult time.

    1. Thank you Frances for your lovely comment. I hope you are coping with your losses especially when they occurred so close to each other. Take care.

  35. I am so sorry for your loss. I hope the angels will take care of her. I found your website today while searching for Endeavour filming locations, and it is so interesting, so I signed up for the newsletters. Best regards and please be safe and healthy.

  36. I’d like to offer my deepest Condolences to you & your family. So sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you. Thank you for your great work.

    1. Thank you so much Sandra, that is very kind of you. I hope you and your family are well.

  37. So sorry to hear of your mum’s passing. I lost mine almost exactly two years ago. She was blessed with good health until a hemorragic (sp?) stroke took all that from her. She lingered for two months. I have so much empathy and sympathy for you in your sorrow. I know I am saying all this very badly; I hope you will take the intent for the action. I have found your website a wonderful resource and hope you can find solace in continuing to update it.

    1. Thank you Lynne for your condolences it is much appreciated. Sorry to read of your mum’s passing.

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