A Possible Delay to the Next Post.

Hello everyone. Just a short post to write that my next post may take a little longer due to my ex mother-in-law, Ann, dying.

It was expected due to her suffering another in a long series of strokes. Thankfully, the kids (I write ‘kids’ but they are 19 and 24), visited her last Wednesday as she died early on Sunday morning. Unfortunately she wasn’t conscious but the nuns said that she occasionally hadmoments of clarity. Hopefully, she had one of those moments of clarity before she died to be told that her grandkids visited and were thinking of her.

Though her daughter, my ex wife, and I separated and divorced some time ago, well a long time ago, we kept in touch and I always made sure she got to see her grandchildren, (I had custody of the children since Glenn was six months old). Glenn and Charlotte, my kids, are upset but I don’t think it will really become real to them until the funeral and I expect a lot of grief as they were close to their granny. Unfortunately, or fortunately, this is Glenn and Charlotte’s first close relative to have died so it is all a bit surreal for them. Other relatives have of course died, like my dad, but they were too young to understand what was going on.

Anyway, I’ve rambled on more than I intended. I’m not a religious person but my Anne was. We both lived/live our lives in a Christian way, my life with a small ‘c’ and Ann lived hers with a capital ‘C’. So, if she was right I hope she is happy.




Author: Chris Sullivan

After having looked after my mum for some 11 years she is now unfortunately in a nursing home. I'm afraid her dementia worsened as did her physical capabilities. UPDATE: My mum died from Covid-19 on the 6th May 2020. So, for the first time in 21 years I find myself no longer caring for anyone. Apart from my mum I was also a single parent to two children and also looked after my dad who had Alzheimers, (he died in 2005). So, I have decided to return to University to try and get another degree this time in English Literature. (My other degree I got some 30 years ago is one in Ecological Science). After a year at college I have passed all grades and now will start Edinburgh University in September 2019. I am now in second year having passed all the requirements in first year.

5 thoughts

  1. Deepest sympathy to you, Chris, and to all of your family on the loss of your ex-Mother in Law. May she rest in peace. Thinking of you all during this difficult time.

  2. I have seldom seen a more beautiful post. Thank you, thank you. It’s good to know that ‘ex-es’ can feel such fondness for one another; your kids are lucky because of it. Take good care, allow the grieving, feel the peace of escape from pain. Death is only a doorway, another path we all must take (as Tolkien says). ‘ And when the gray rain cloud rolls back, there it is: the far green country, under a swift sunrise. ‘ And all will be well.


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